Ask Anna is a sex column. Because of the nature of the topic, some columns contain language some readers may find graphic. My wife and I have been together for nine years. We have a good relationship and great sex. I found out early on in our relationship months in that she was still hooking up with her ex and found that super hot.
My husband wants me to have an affair and has fantasized about it for the last 5 of our 10 years together. He gets turned on at the mere thought of me having sex with someone else. We had some serious problems a couple of years ago and I was unfaithful once. I told him and he went from hurt, to jealous, to turned on and asks me to talk about it now during sex. Is this type of fantasy better kept a fantasy? I would never be turned on at the thought of him with another woman.
Have an intimate question? To e-mail us, click here. While he has a lways been interested in my sexual history I'm 39 and he's 40 , lately he's been wanting me to tell him details about sex with previous partners, including their penis size, and whether I would be interested in sleeping with them again.